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| after the rush... |
| So you've done a workshop. It was a deep, powerful, beautiful experience. You felt like you'll never be the same again. In a way that's certainly true. Yet on another more prosaic level you find old habits creeping back in, get really disappointed in yourself and/or the rhythms, and either desperately reach for the next workshop or decide that you'd be better off taking evening classes in knitting...
There is another way. There's something to learn, about change. The way your life is – friends/lovers/work/home/hobbies etc – is created from the way your energy has been until now. So your energy fits. If you change your energy, for instance by dancing deeply, then your energy no longer fits in some ways. These structures and people will exert a force on you to change back to the way you were before. This is just the way it is. Otherwise they have to change too, and the first impulse to change is resistance. So your world (outer and inner) will resist the change in you, and try to change you back. Especially those who are closest to you, like lovers and family!! You have a choice. To integrate your new energy, or to change back like your world wants you to. To nurture the new requires several things: 1. Be gentle and compassionate with those around you who are trying to change you back. Including yourself. They are just going through their fear of and resistance to your changes. Help them grow. How can you help them? How can you gently but firmly persist with yourself? 2. Be active with other aspects of your world – how can you help it change so it fits you now? Do you need to change things around in your home? Your work? Your lesuire time? 3. Find some active and practical ways to nurture the inner change in you. Dance! Sing! Write poems! Paint! Take up a new activity! Get a massage. Pray. Meditate. Write some affirmations and repeat them often enough and for long enough that they work. You will have to gently persist if you want to bring your new energy to earth, to help it grow roots and branches and flowers and fruit. It doesn’t happen without your conscious and ACTIVE support. 4. If you have it in you, keep dancing. And not just in a class; dance at home. Push the sofa back, take the phone off the hook, use your favourite music or silence. Don’t make a dogma out of the rhythms – you can just do body parts, or one of the rhythms, or all of them on the floor. Be creative! Dance a wave as some aspect of yourself you want to get to know. Just the act of taking total responsibility for a dance experience will make it strong in you. 5. Take a deep breath. Remember that everything moves in waves, and everything changes. You cannot hold on to a ‘you’ that you were in a workshop. But you can do what was happening there, which was that you were connecting deeply with your own flow and relating to the world around you from that place. Take a deep breath. |
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